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Memorial Day 2017

It is the VETERAN, not the preacher, who has given us freedom of religion.
It is the VETERAN, not the reporter, who has given us freedom of the press.
It is the VETERAN, not the poet, who has given us freedom of speech.
It is the VETERAN, not the campus organizer, who has given us freedom to assemble.
It is the VETERAN, not the lawyer, who has given us the right to a fair trial.
It is the VETERAN, not the politician, who has given us the right to vote.
It is the VETERAN who salutes the Flag.
It is the VETERAN who serves under the Flag.

ETERNAL REST GRANT THEM O LORD,

AND LET PERPETUAL LIGHT SHINE UPON THEM

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For Mother’s Day

“Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a Memory”

-unknown

Celebrate Mother’s Day by Doing Something Together

Spending quality time with the important woman (or women!) in your life is a fantastic way to celebrate Mother’s Day.

To help you plan something special, we rounded up 15 fun Mother’s Day activities for seniors.

 

7 activities for seniors who like to go out

These 7 activities are perfect for older adults who enjoy getting out of the house. They can be done together with lots of family and friends or one-on-one for quality time together.

  • Share a nice meal at their favorite restaurant. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just a place they really enjoy.
  • Visit a botanical garden to see the beautiful flowers. You could also bring a picnic lunch!
  • Take a sports fan to a game — whether it’s a local or national team, it’s sure to be a good time.
  • Stroll through a nice shopping mall. Outdoor malls are fantastic in good weather. Indoor malls are temperature controlled and have seating for taking breaks, plenty of snacks and drinks, and lots of bathrooms. Plus, it’s fun to window shop!
  • Art lovers may enjoy visiting a nearby museum. A good conversation starter is to ask them about the pieces they like best.
  • For someone who is really excited about a hobby (like art, gardening, music), enjoy that activity with them or join in a class they take.
  • Go to the park to enjoy a picnic or a walk.

 

8 activities for seniors who like to stay in

These 8 activities are perfect for older adults who enjoy staying home. Many are great to do with family and friends and others are better one-on-one.

  • Cook their favorite meal or get takeout from their favorite restaurant. Arrange the food on nice plates and decorate the table a bit. You could even go all out with candles, flowers, and fancy china!
  • Throw a casual potluck party where everyone brings a dish and spends the afternoon relaxing, chatting, and eating together.
  • Bake cookies or cook a favorite dish together. Depending on their abilities and interests, they could work side-by-side with you, prep a few simple ingredients, or keep you company and be your taste tester.
  • Enjoy a sparkling non-alcoholic “cocktail” as way to fancy-up afternoon snack time. Just add sparkling juice or bubbly water to lemonade, juice, or iced tea and put it in a pretty cup!
  • Play their favorite music and have a sing-a-long or just sit and enjoy the tunes together.
  • Read aloud from a book of their choice. You could even take turns reading.
  • Play cards or a board game together.
  • Relax together while watching a favorite movie or TV program.

-Adapted from Daily Caring.com

Travelling With an Elderly Parent

Safety Tips For Travelling With An Elderly Parent

Remember how much fun you had travelling with your parents when you were a kid? Mom and dad would take you to the beach, to theme parks, visit your grandparents and a lot of different places. Now that you’re older, it’s your turn to take care of your parents and bring them to nice places.

We all know that travelling with elderly parents isn’t easy. This is especially true if they are suffering from a medical condition or have difficulty walking. But travelling with your parents doesn’t have to be stressful. A little planning and preparation is needed for a memorable, enjoyable and worry-free vacation.

Here are some safety tips for travelling with an elderly parent

  • Pack light

Given that most elderly adults won’t be able to carry their bags, we recommend that you pack only what’s necessary. Make sure that all their things can fit in a small luggage. This way, you won’t have a hard time pulling or carrying all your luggage. With fewer bags, it would be easier for you to look after your parents.

Since your bags can fit in the overhead rack, there’s no need for you check them in. This will save you a lot of time since you won’t have to wait for your luggage at the airport carousel.

  • Prepare documents

Prepare all the necessary documents such as passport, travel tickets, doctor’s prescription, insurance cards etc. If mom or dad has any surgical implants that might set off metal detectors, then prepare the necessary documents from the doctor. Place all these documents in an envelope so as to ensure that you won’t lose any of them. Keep these documents, along with all your essentials, in your carry-on bag.

  • Request special services

If mom or dad always goes to the toilet, arrange for special seating so that they are seated near a restroom. If they are in need of a wheelchair, contact airline personnel before the trip so as to ensure that it is available upon arrival. You can also request for airplane boarding assistance. Airport staff can help get them to their seat and board before other travellers. Arrange special services ahead of time for a hassle-free travel.

  • Plan for rest breaks

Older adults prefer to travel for short periods of time. They don’t have the energy and stamina to explore every parts of the city. So when planning your itinerary, make sure not to fill your day with too many activities. Don’t forget to take breaks in between. If they’re tired, you can just sit and admire the scenery. Also, stop more frequently for bathroom breaks.      Source:  All About Seniors.net

Enjoy your time together and make wonderful memories

IMPROVING YOUR HOME HEALTH

5 Things to Improve Home Health Today!

The air you breathe is as important as the food you eat to keeping your body and mind healthy. There are lots of easy things you can do to make your indoor air healthier. Even small changes can make a difference so try something today!

 

  • RUN YOUR RANGE HOOD FAN
    Like bathing, cooking generates lots of moisture as well as emissions from gas stoves and some Teflon and non-stick pans.  By running a range hood that vents to the outside you can keep moisture and chemicals out of your kitchen breathing space!
  • SKIP SCENTED CANDLES
    Unfortunately, the pretty candles around your house have a pretty bad influence on your indoor air quality because their fragrances, paraffin wax, and wicks with heavy metal cores put off chemicals that are considered just as dangerous as second-hand smoke. Pack them up and get them out!
  • SWIFFER YOUR WALLS
    Dust collects everywhere and your walls are no exception. A quick “Swiffer” of the walls (and ceilings) will do the trick. Best of all, you only have to do it once a year!
  • CHANGE FILTERS
    Furnaces, air conditioning units, vacuum cleaners – if it has a filter it needs to be changed on a regular basis. If you can’t remember the last time you did it, it is time.
  • STORE CHEMICALS OUTSIDE
    Paints, pesticides, non-green cleaning and laundry products, and other household chemicals should be stored outside of the house. If that isn’t possible, they should be sealed tightly and stored in a cool, dry place away from forced air systems and ducts. Even if you don’t think you are chemically sensitive, take care when handling these products – you could get a big hit of chemicals that leave you not feeling great.

 

Concerned about how conditions in your home are affecting your health? Get your Hayward Score today.

by Dana Sundblad

Helping Your Elderly Parents Save Money

 

Helping aging parents save money is not a one-time affair. It’s an extended effort that takes time. However, your loved ones will appreciate the help when they realize the benefits as they materialize.

4 Everyday Ways to Help Your Elderly Parents Save Money

If you’re finding a large amount of new purchases and shopping bags on display when visiting a grandparent or parent, you may be justifiably concerned. Just like younger people have problems with spending, older adults sometimes do too.

The fact is, shopping can be a highly social activity, and aging individuals need social contact just as much as anyone else, even more so if they spend the rest of the day fairly isolated. Spending money can be a quick release and source of mental happiness. Unfortunately, it also comes with a very visible price tag, too.

Rather than discourage a loved one from buying things, try these four money-saving strategies to keep them within their budget:

  • Apply Senior Discounts

There are multiple ways to help older adults save money, just as there are for anyone else, but this is one time that aging individuals have the advantage. It is a well-established practice that older adults get a “senior discount” from most businesses, particularly restaurants and hotels. Anyone who is eligible and doesn’t use this discount is literally leaving money on the table. While the savings aren’t tremendous in one transaction, they will accumulate over time when applied consistently.

  • Use Coupons

While some may consider coupons as more of a hassle than an effective money saver, coupons can add another 10 to 20 percent of savings on the average purchase from food to appliances to durable goods. In some cases, the savings can be as much as 50 percent. Again, once a person realizes how much is discounted regularly when using coupons, it’s foolish not to take advantage of them. Older adults are fairly used to using paper coupons, but many businesses have switched to electronic coupons and advertisements by email or text—so it’s just a matter of teaching the older generation how to use a new format.

  • Buy Lightly Used Appliances or Surplus Goods

Big savings can be had on large purchases (appliances, cars, etc.) if they are bought a year old. In almost all aspects, these units work perfectly fine and will last reliably for at least another five to seven years. The savings gained from targeting lightly used or surplus new items can be hundreds, even thousands of dollars. Especially with surplus goods, savings can be anywhere from 50 to 80 percent, particularly on clothes and accessories. Again, these are often new goods or almost-new durable goods. When one realizes how much these items can stretch a dollar, folks often kick themselves for not doing it sooner.

  • Avoid Offers That Are Too Good to Be True

The number one way older adults get separated from their money? Scams and too-good-to-be-true offers, usually on TV. However, many aging parents will react negatively to any kind of control on their liberties. Instead, the way to save them hurt and money is to support them by offering a second opinion. This may mean having to be patient with a lot of oddball questions, but it can be worth the effort saving your loved ones from a scam that can steal thousands of dollars from them.

Ultimately, offering your help versus trying to control the situation will be much more effective in the long term.

 

By Mark Westerman, Chief Marketing Officer for CareOne, Inc., a provider of debt relief services nationwide.

 

Is it Lying or is it Stepping into Their Reality?

Why Experts Recommend Lying to Someone with Dementia

When your older adult has Alzheimer’s or dementia, their brain may experience a different version of reality because of the damage their disease has caused.

Dementia care experts recommend stepping into your senior’s reality rather than trying to correct them or bring them back into ours. That’s because their brain is steadily losing the ability to process information. Forcing them to join us in the “real world” only causes confusion, anxiety, fear, and anger.

This technique takes some getting used to because going along with your senior’s new reality can feel like you’re lying to them. But the reality is that honesty is not always the best policy when it comes to someone with dementia.

 

  • Telling the truth can be cruel

Most of us are taught from a young age that any kind of lying is horrible and dishonest. On top of that, we’re told never to lie to parents, spouses, and people we love and respect. So when we hear about lying to someone with dementia, it seems cruel and wrong.

But always sticking to the truth, especially about an emotional subject, is what’s most likely to cause your older adult pain, confusion, and distress.

Plus, their problems with short-term memory mean they probably won’t remember the conversation, so it will come up again. Telling the truth each time forces them to experience the fear and anxiety over and over again.

The disease prevents people from properly processing and retaining information. Is it necessary to cause them so much distress, especially when the truth you tell them is likely to be misunderstood or quickly forgotten?

 

  • Therapeutic fibbing helps you step into their world

An effective way to step into your older adult’s reality is to agree with whatever they say or tell harmless untruths. Experts call this therapeutic fibbing. It means saying things that are not true to avoid causing your older adult distress and to make them feel safe and comforted.

In many ways, it’s similar to telling a friend that you love the thoughtful gift they gave you, even if you don’t actually like it. Telling the absolute truth in that case wouldn’t change the situation and would only hurt your friend.

Here are two simple examples that illustrate the difference between being completely truthful and using therapeutic fibs.

  1. Being completely truthful
    Your mom: School is over. My mommy is coming to pick me up now. I need to go outside to wait for her!

You: You’re 89 years old. You haven’t been to school in decades. And don’t you remember that your mom died 25 years ago? You don’t need to go outside because nobody is coming to pick you up.

Your mom: What? What do you mean my mom is dead? No! She can’t be dead!! I saw her this morning! She told me she would pick me up!!! I need to go outside to wait!! (She’s crying, agitated, and screaming.)

  1. Using therapeutic fibbing

Your mom: School is over. My mommy is coming to pick me up now. I need to go outside to wait for her!

You: Oh yes, it’s almost time to go. Your mom asked me to give you a snack first so you won’t get hungry on the way home. Let’s have some juice and crackers.

Your mom: Ok, I’ll have a snack.

You: (Use this distraction as an opportunity to occupy her with the snack and a fun activity until she lets go of the idea of meeting her mother.)

 

Bottom line

Always telling the truth to someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia is most likely to upset or hurt them. Therapeutic fibbing is a technique you can use to step into their new reality and spare them unnecessary pain and distress.

Using untruths to validate their feelings and reassure them is not the same as lying for a malicious reason.

 

Source: DailyCaring.com

5 TIPS FOR CHOOSING A GOOD ELDER LAW ATTORNEY

Elder law attorneys help seniors and family caregivers

Elder law is a specialized legal area that’s focused on seniors and their families. Elder law attorneys often concentrate on things like figuring out how to pay for long-term care, drafting Powers of Attorney, and estate planning.

Having the essential legal documents in place allows you to provide the best care for your senior, both now and toward the end of life. That’s why it’s so important to find an expert lawyer you can trust.

Find an elder law attorney through a referral

Getting a referral from family or a friend is a great way to find a lawyer. If they have a lawyer they’re happy with and would work with again, that’s a good sign.

It’s best if you can get a referral from someone whose legal needs were similar to yours. But even if you need an elder care lawyer and your cousin worked with an excellent civil attorney, that referral is still useful. Good lawyers know other good lawyers and will probably be able to refer you to a colleague they respect.

Similarly, financial advisors, accountants, and fiduciaries (someone legally appointed to manage money) are professionals who often work with elder law attorneys. If you know and trust one of these professionals, ask them for a referral.

 5 tips for choosing a good elder law attorney

After getting referrals, you’ll still need to choose an attorney. Don’t make up your mind about hiring a lawyer until you’ve met them, discussed your needs, and checked their credentials.

  1. Meet for an initial consultation (possibly free)

If you summarize your needs in advance, many lawyers will be willing to meet for 15 to 30 minutes at no charge. If there is a fee for a consultation, find out how much it will be. An in-person meeting helps you get a feel for how they work and if their style works for you.

If you meet with a few lawyers and present the same situation to each, you can also compare what they’ve said. That helps you confirm whether their advice is legitimate and helps you think of questions to ask about any differences in advice.

  1. Find out how much experience they’ve had with issues similar to yours

Look for a lawyer with experience handling matters just like yours. Experience comes with years in practice and with how many of those types of situations they’ve dealt with.

If you need help with a Power of Attorney, long-term care planning, or estate planning, ask them to describe their experience with those matters.

  1. Evaluate their customer service

Working with someone who is professional and responsive is important.

Some questions to ask yourself after speaking with lawyer are:

  • Are they polite and professional?
  • Do they return your calls in a timely manner?
  • Do they take time to explain things to make sure you understand what you’re getting in to?
  • Do they follow through with what they said they’ll do?
  1. Take plenty of notes

To help you remember what each lawyer said and how you felt about them, take notes during and after each meeting. Later, you can review your notes as you make your final decision.

  1. Check their credentials

Check the State Bar Association website for your state. Look up the attorney’s name or Bar number to make sure they’re actively licensed to practice law in your state. This will also show if they’ve ever been publicly disciplined.

Source:  DailyCaring.com

Tax Help for Caregiver of Elderly Parents

Are [family] caregiving expenses tax deductible? I provide a lot of financial support to my elderly mother and would like to find out if I can write any of it off on my taxes.

 

 

There are actually several tax deductions and credits available to adult children who take care of their aging parents or other relatives. Here are your options along with the IRS requirements to help you determine if you’re eligible to receive them.

  • Dependency Deduction

If you’re paying for more than 50% of your mom’s living costs (housing, food, utilities, medical and dental care, transportation and other necessities), and her 2016 gross income (not counting her Social Security benefits) was under $4,050, you can claim your mom as a dependent on your tax return and reduce your taxable income by $4,050.

Note that your mom doesn’t have to live with you to qualify as a dependent, as long as her income was under $4,050 and you provided more than half her financial support.

If your mother does live with you, you can include a percentage of your mortgage, utilities and other expenses in calculating how much you contribute to her support. IRS Publication 501 (see irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p501.pdf) has a worksheet that can help you with this. To receive this, or other IRS publications or forms via mail, call 800-829-3676.

  • Shared Support

If you share the financial responsibility for your mom with other siblings, you may be eligible for the IRS multiple-support declaration. Here’s how this works. If one sibling is providing more than half the parent’s financial support, only that sibling can claim the parent. But if each sibling provides less than 50% support, and their combined assistance exceeds half the parent’s support, then any sibling who provides more than 10% can claim the parent as a dependent. But only one sibling can claim the tax break in any given year. Siblings can rotate the tax break, with one claiming the parent one year and another the next. The sibling who claims the parent as a dependent will need to fill out IRS Form 2120 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f2120.pdf) and file it with his or her tax return.

  • Medical Deductions

If you can’t claim your mom as a dependent, you may still get a tax break for helping pay her medical costs. The IRS lets taxpayers deduct money spent on a parent’s health care and qualified long-term care services, even if the parent doesn’t qualify as a dependent.

To claim this deduction, you still must provide more than half your mom’s support, but your mom doesn’t have to be under the $4,050 income test. The deduction is limited to medical, dental and long-term care expenses that exceed 10% (or 7.5% if you’re 65 by Dec. 31, 2016) of your adjusted gross income. You can include your own medical expenses in calculating the total. See IRS publication 502 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p502.pdf) for details.

  • Dependent Care Credit

If you’re paying for in-home care or adult day care for your mom so you are free to work, you may also be able to claim the Dependent Care Tax Credit, regardless of whether or not your mom qualifies as a dependent on your tax return. This credit can cut up to $1,050 off your tax bill for the year. In order to claim it, you must fill out IRS Form 2441 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f2441.pdf) when you file your federal return.

  • Check Your State

In addition to the federal tax breaks, more than 20 states offer tax credits and deductions for caregivers on state income taxes. Check with your state tax agency to see what’s available. For links to state tax agencies see taxadmin.org/state-tax-agencies.

Copy by Jim Miller, a regular contributor to the NBC Today Show and author of “The Savvy Living” book.

Cold Weather Hazards For Seniors

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Falls and Hypothermia Top the List of Winter Ailments for Seniors.

Snowy weather and cold temperatures are a bother for everyone, but for seniors it can simply be dangerous. Older Americans are particularly vulnerable to complications from winter weather. Here are some tips to help stay safe and warm.

Preventing Falls

According to the National Institutes for Health (NIH.gov), more than 1.6 million older Americans go to the emergency room each year for fall-related injuries. One of the major causes for falls is ice. It seems simple enough to not walk through snow and keep away from areas that are covered with ice; however when the temperature drops rapidly, black ice can occur without warning.

To lessen the chances of a fall in cold weather:

  • Stretch before going outside. Stretching improves circulation and limbers stiff muscles.
  • Be cautious of footwear; make sure that you are wearing non-skid sole shoes with a low heel and adequate support if they must be out in the weather.
  • Make arrangements to have safety devices installed around the outside of your home if possible. A simple handrail can provide necessary support to help maintain balance and keep you from falling.

Hypothermia

As people age, their sense of touch declines. Arthritis, diabetes, poor circulation, stroke induced paralysis, and a multitude of other conditions can cause lack of feeling, especially in the extremities.

To prevent hypothermia:

  • Keep your home’s thermostat set at 68 degrees or above.
  • Dress in layers of loose fitting clothing.
  • Keep your head covered when you are outdoors. A great deal of heat is lost when your head is exposed.
  • Know the signs of hypothermia: slurred speech, confusion, dizziness, slow or irregular heartbeat and shallow breathing.

Protecting your skin is another winter weather tip that seniors should pay special attention to. As we age our skin becomes thinner and drier, thus more prone to tears. Certain medications can spell havoc on the lining of your nasal passages, creating an increased risk for nose bleeds. Keep the dangers of dryness low by using a humidifier to keep your air moist, drink plenty of water and eat foods high in water content like soups and vegetables, and moisturize your skin daily with creams or lotions.

We cannot stop Mother Nature from sending us winter weather, however we can do ourselves a big favor and be prepared when it does occur. It’s important to make regular visits with elderly friends and family during the winter. This will help make sure that their health is not declining as a result of cold weather.

 

Source: Chase Patton, AASC.org