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Spending quality time with the important woman (or women!) in your life is a fantastic way to celebrate Mother’s Day.
To help you plan something special, we rounded up 15 fun Mother’s Day activities for seniors.
These 7 activities are perfect for older adults who enjoy getting out of the house. They can be done together with lots of family and friends or one-on-one for quality time together.
These 8 activities are perfect for older adults who enjoy staying home. Many are great to do with family and friends and others are better one-on-one.
-Adapted from Daily Caring.com
Remember how much fun you had travelling with your parents when you were a kid? Mom and dad would take you to the beach, to theme parks, visit your grandparents and a lot of different places. Now that you’re older, it’s your turn to take care of your parents and bring them to nice places.
We all know that travelling with elderly parents isn’t easy. This is especially true if they are suffering from a medical condition or have difficulty walking. But travelling with your parents doesn’t have to be stressful. A little planning and preparation is needed for a memorable, enjoyable and worry-free vacation.
Given that most elderly adults won’t be able to carry their bags, we recommend that you pack only what’s necessary. Make sure that all their things can fit in a small luggage. This way, you won’t have a hard time pulling or carrying all your luggage. With fewer bags, it would be easier for you to look after your parents.
Since your bags can fit in the overhead rack, there’s no need for you check them in. This will save you a lot of time since you won’t have to wait for your luggage at the airport carousel.
Prepare all the necessary documents such as passport, travel tickets, doctor’s prescription, insurance cards etc. If mom or dad has any surgical implants that might set off metal detectors, then prepare the necessary documents from the doctor. Place all these documents in an envelope so as to ensure that you won’t lose any of them. Keep these documents, along with all your essentials, in your carry-on bag.
If mom or dad always goes to the toilet, arrange for special seating so that they are seated near a restroom. If they are in need of a wheelchair, contact airline personnel before the trip so as to ensure that it is available upon arrival. You can also request for airplane boarding assistance. Airport staff can help get them to their seat and board before other travellers. Arrange special services ahead of time for a hassle-free travel.
Older adults prefer to travel for short periods of time. They don’t have the energy and stamina to explore every parts of the city. So when planning your itinerary, make sure not to fill your day with too many activities. Don’t forget to take breaks in between. If they’re tired, you can just sit and admire the scenery. Also, stop more frequently for bathroom breaks. Source: All About Seniors.net
Enjoy your time together and make wonderful memories
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If you’re finding a large amount of new purchases and shopping bags on display when visiting a grandparent or parent, you may be justifiably concerned. Just like younger people have problems with spending, older adults sometimes do too.
The fact is, shopping can be a highly social activity, and aging individuals need social contact just as much as anyone else, even more so if they spend the rest of the day fairly isolated. Spending money can be a quick release and source of mental happiness. Unfortunately, it also comes with a very visible price tag, too.
Rather than discourage a loved one from buying things, try these four money-saving strategies to keep them within their budget:
There are multiple ways to help older adults save money, just as there are for anyone else, but this is one time that aging individuals have the advantage. It is a well-established practice that older adults get a “senior discount” from most businesses, particularly restaurants and hotels. Anyone who is eligible and doesn’t use this discount is literally leaving money on the table. While the savings aren’t tremendous in one transaction, they will accumulate over time when applied consistently.
While some may consider coupons as more of a hassle than an effective money saver, coupons can add another 10 to 20 percent of savings on the average purchase from food to appliances to durable goods. In some cases, the savings can be as much as 50 percent. Again, once a person realizes how much is discounted regularly when using coupons, it’s foolish not to take advantage of them. Older adults are fairly used to using paper coupons, but many businesses have switched to electronic coupons and advertisements by email or text—so it’s just a matter of teaching the older generation how to use a new format.
Big savings can be had on large purchases (appliances, cars, etc.) if they are bought a year old. In almost all aspects, these units work perfectly fine and will last reliably for at least another five to seven years. The savings gained from targeting lightly used or surplus new items can be hundreds, even thousands of dollars. Especially with surplus goods, savings can be anywhere from 50 to 80 percent, particularly on clothes and accessories. Again, these are often new goods or almost-new durable goods. When one realizes how much these items can stretch a dollar, folks often kick themselves for not doing it sooner.
The number one way older adults get separated from their money? Scams and too-good-to-be-true offers, usually on TV. However, many aging parents will react negatively to any kind of control on their liberties. Instead, the way to save them hurt and money is to support them by offering a second opinion. This may mean having to be patient with a lot of oddball questions, but it can be worth the effort saving your loved ones from a scam that can steal thousands of dollars from them.
Ultimately, offering your help versus trying to control the situation will be much more effective in the long term.
By Mark Westerman, Chief Marketing Officer for CareOne, Inc., a provider of debt relief services nationwide.
When your older adult has Alzheimer’s or dementia, their brain may experience a different version of reality because of the damage their disease has caused.
Dementia care experts recommend stepping into your senior’s reality rather than trying to correct them or bring them back into ours. That’s because their brain is steadily losing the ability to process information. Forcing them to join us in the “real world” only causes confusion, anxiety, fear, and anger.
This technique takes some getting used to because going along with your senior’s new reality can feel like you’re lying to them. But the reality is that honesty is not always the best policy when it comes to someone with dementia.
Most of us are taught from a young age that any kind of lying is horrible and dishonest. On top of that, we’re told never to lie to parents, spouses, and people we love and respect. So when we hear about lying to someone with dementia, it seems cruel and wrong.
But always sticking to the truth, especially about an emotional subject, is what’s most likely to cause your older adult pain, confusion, and distress.
Plus, their problems with short-term memory mean they probably won’t remember the conversation, so it will come up again. Telling the truth each time forces them to experience the fear and anxiety over and over again.
The disease prevents people from properly processing and retaining information. Is it necessary to cause them so much distress, especially when the truth you tell them is likely to be misunderstood or quickly forgotten?
An effective way to step into your older adult’s reality is to agree with whatever they say or tell harmless untruths. Experts call this therapeutic fibbing. It means saying things that are not true to avoid causing your older adult distress and to make them feel safe and comforted.
In many ways, it’s similar to telling a friend that you love the thoughtful gift they gave you, even if you don’t actually like it. Telling the absolute truth in that case wouldn’t change the situation and would only hurt your friend.
You: You’re 89 years old. You haven’t been to school in decades. And don’t you remember that your mom died 25 years ago? You don’t need to go outside because nobody is coming to pick you up.
Your mom: What? What do you mean my mom is dead? No! She can’t be dead!! I saw her this morning! She told me she would pick me up!!! I need to go outside to wait!! (She’s crying, agitated, and screaming.)
Your mom: School is over. My mommy is coming to pick me up now. I need to go outside to wait for her!
You: Oh yes, it’s almost time to go. Your mom asked me to give you a snack first so you won’t get hungry on the way home. Let’s have some juice and crackers.
Your mom: Ok, I’ll have a snack.
You: (Use this distraction as an opportunity to occupy her with the snack and a fun activity until she lets go of the idea of meeting her mother.)
Always telling the truth to someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia is most likely to upset or hurt them. Therapeutic fibbing is a technique you can use to step into their new reality and spare them unnecessary pain and distress.
Using untruths to validate their feelings and reassure them is not the same as lying for a malicious reason.
Elder law is a specialized legal area that’s focused on seniors and their families. Elder law attorneys often concentrate on things like figuring out how to pay for long-term care, drafting Powers of Attorney, and estate planning.
Having the essential legal documents in place allows you to provide the best care for your senior, both now and toward the end of life. That’s why it’s so important to find an expert lawyer you can trust.
Getting a referral from family or a friend is a great way to find a lawyer. If they have a lawyer they’re happy with and would work with again, that’s a good sign.
It’s best if you can get a referral from someone whose legal needs were similar to yours. But even if you need an elder care lawyer and your cousin worked with an excellent civil attorney, that referral is still useful. Good lawyers know other good lawyers and will probably be able to refer you to a colleague they respect.
Similarly, financial advisors, accountants, and fiduciaries (someone legally appointed to manage money) are professionals who often work with elder law attorneys. If you know and trust one of these professionals, ask them for a referral.
After getting referrals, you’ll still need to choose an attorney. Don’t make up your mind about hiring a lawyer until you’ve met them, discussed your needs, and checked their credentials.
If you summarize your needs in advance, many lawyers will be willing to meet for 15 to 30 minutes at no charge. If there is a fee for a consultation, find out how much it will be. An in-person meeting helps you get a feel for how they work and if their style works for you.
If you meet with a few lawyers and present the same situation to each, you can also compare what they’ve said. That helps you confirm whether their advice is legitimate and helps you think of questions to ask about any differences in advice.
Look for a lawyer with experience handling matters just like yours. Experience comes with years in practice and with how many of those types of situations they’ve dealt with.
If you need help with a Power of Attorney, long-term care planning, or estate planning, ask them to describe their experience with those matters.
Working with someone who is professional and responsive is important.
Some questions to ask yourself after speaking with lawyer are:
To help you remember what each lawyer said and how you felt about them, take notes during and after each meeting. Later, you can review your notes as you make your final decision.
Check the State Bar Association website for your state. Look up the attorney’s name or Bar number to make sure they’re actively licensed to practice law in your state. This will also show if they’ve ever been publicly disciplined.
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There are actually several tax deductions and credits available to adult children who take care of their aging parents or other relatives. Here are your options along with the IRS requirements to help you determine if you’re eligible to receive them.
If you’re paying for more than 50% of your mom’s living costs (housing, food, utilities, medical and dental care, transportation and other necessities), and her 2016 gross income (not counting her Social Security benefits) was under $4,050, you can claim your mom as a dependent on your tax return and reduce your taxable income by $4,050.
Note that your mom doesn’t have to live with you to qualify as a dependent, as long as her income was under $4,050 and you provided more than half her financial support.
If your mother does live with you, you can include a percentage of your mortgage, utilities and other expenses in calculating how much you contribute to her support. IRS Publication 501 (see irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p501.pdf) has a worksheet that can help you with this. To receive this, or other IRS publications or forms via mail, call 800-829-3676.
If you share the financial responsibility for your mom with other siblings, you may be eligible for the IRS multiple-support declaration. Here’s how this works. If one sibling is providing more than half the parent’s financial support, only that sibling can claim the parent. But if each sibling provides less than 50% support, and their combined assistance exceeds half the parent’s support, then any sibling who provides more than 10% can claim the parent as a dependent. But only one sibling can claim the tax break in any given year. Siblings can rotate the tax break, with one claiming the parent one year and another the next. The sibling who claims the parent as a dependent will need to fill out IRS Form 2120 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f2120.pdf) and file it with his or her tax return.
If you can’t claim your mom as a dependent, you may still get a tax break for helping pay her medical costs. The IRS lets taxpayers deduct money spent on a parent’s health care and qualified long-term care services, even if the parent doesn’t qualify as a dependent.
To claim this deduction, you still must provide more than half your mom’s support, but your mom doesn’t have to be under the $4,050 income test. The deduction is limited to medical, dental and long-term care expenses that exceed 10% (or 7.5% if you’re 65 by Dec. 31, 2016) of your adjusted gross income. You can include your own medical expenses in calculating the total. See IRS publication 502 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/p502.pdf) for details.
If you’re paying for in-home care or adult day care for your mom so you are free to work, you may also be able to claim the Dependent Care Tax Credit, regardless of whether or not your mom qualifies as a dependent on your tax return. This credit can cut up to $1,050 off your tax bill for the year. In order to claim it, you must fill out IRS Form 2441 (irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f2441.pdf) when you file your federal return.
In addition to the federal tax breaks, more than 20 states offer tax credits and deductions for caregivers on state income taxes. Check with your state tax agency to see what’s available. For links to state tax agencies see taxadmin.org/state-tax-agencies.
Copy by Jim Miller, a regular contributor to the NBC Today Show and author of “The Savvy Living” book.
According to the National Institutes for Health (NIH.gov), more than 1.6 million older Americans go to the emergency room each year for fall-related injuries. One of the major causes for falls is ice. It seems simple enough to not walk through snow and keep away from areas that are covered with ice; however when the temperature drops rapidly, black ice can occur without warning.
To lessen the chances of a fall in cold weather:
As people age, their sense of touch declines. Arthritis, diabetes, poor circulation, stroke induced paralysis, and a multitude of other conditions can cause lack of feeling, especially in the extremities.
To prevent hypothermia:
Protecting your skin is another winter weather tip that seniors should pay special attention to. As we age our skin becomes thinner and drier, thus more prone to tears. Certain medications can spell havoc on the lining of your nasal passages, creating an increased risk for nose bleeds. Keep the dangers of dryness low by using a humidifier to keep your air moist, drink plenty of water and eat foods high in water content like soups and vegetables, and moisturize your skin daily with creams or lotions.
We cannot stop Mother Nature from sending us winter weather, however we can do ourselves a big favor and be prepared when it does occur. It’s important to make regular visits with elderly friends and family during the winter. This will help make sure that their health is not declining as a result of cold weather.
Source: Chase Patton, AASC.org