Have you ever wondered why your aging parent seems to shut down or gives you push back when you bring up some changes you’ve noticed in their abilities of late? After all you are only looking out for them and want what’s best for them, right? And you are only trying to help. What Aging Parents Think and Feel Well don’t let their actions and comments stop you from your desire to help and concern for their well being now and in the future. You just need a different approach….a relationship-shift. Read the article: Are You An Aging Parent with Adult Children? and you will begin to understand why. – Rhonda Caudell RN, CCM, CGCM
Limit the outside distractions like radio or TV
Make sure your face is always in the light so your lips and facial expressions can be easily seen.
Face the person and make eye contact.
Speak slowly, in a normal relaxed tone.
Use short direct phrases.
Whenever possible stay engaged in the conversation.
Be excited even when hearing the same story multiple times.
Don’t shout or use baby talk which will increase the stress level.
We can all learn to “listen effectively” to others.
Communication is critical in all successful relationships and almost everyone could benefit from working at how to communicate more effectively. Always make a special effort to understand the other person. You will be glad you did! -Becci
It was a somber occasion and yet a blessing to attend the funeral of a friend yesterday. He was a Vietnam Veteran, a decorated soldier, a patriot and much more. The timeliness of the funeral with our Country’s solemn recognition of Memorial Day and the sacrifice of so many to protect the United States of America was extraordinary.
So many veterans who did return home from combat have faced serious illnesses later in life because of those experiences and exposures. Perhaps that was the case for this Lt. Colonel. It seemed he died too early in life.
For me, to watch two young service men fold the American flag that draped his coffin with such care and preciseness and then hold it close to their heart before presenting it with honor to his widow is what Memorial Day is all about.
Love of God, family, country and a soldier’s willingness to serve and sacrifice is the story for all our nation’s veterans, both those who have passed and those are with us still. Our debt to them cannot be repaid. We can only remember those who gave their all and “Never Forget”. We can honor and respect those who are serving now and tell them so when there is an opportunity.
God bless all of our veterans and their families. May He keep all of them and us under His wings and in the safety of His arms on this Memorial Day and beyond. -Becci Bookner
Family Staffing Solutions, is celebrating Older Americans Month by recognizing its caregivers who are over the age of 60. Older Americans Month is celebrated each May to raise awareness of issues facing older adults, and also to celebrate and advocate for older Americans.
“Our ‘senior’ workers add such value to the work that we do, but also to their communities. We are thrilled to recognize each of them,” said Becci Bookner, President and CEO of Family Staffing Solutions.
Sixty caregivers will be honored with a personalized letter from Governor Bill Haslam, as well as other gifts, at celebrations at each Family Staffing Solutions office on May 20.
“As we were preparing to honor these wonderful and dedicated caregivers, we were surprised to learn that we had sixty over the age of 60 – and 17 of those are over age 70,” Bookner said.
“Why am I the only one who does anything for Mother… and my brothers and sisters do nothing.”
“My mom moved in with us. It didn’t work out, so she moved out.”
“If only I had been nicer to my mother, if only I’d tried harder, and now it is too late.”
If you want to make the best of the time you can share with your parents it is important that you do your homework. What you do as the primary caregiver for your parent/s may make the difference between a contented time in life for an aging parent or a miserable one. The number one thing to remember and understand is that your parents have choices and so do you!
Just like in great customer service training and business building strategy development, offering choices increases the odds that the customer will get a solution that matches their needs and wants. In the exchanges of ideas and conversations with customers or with your parents, if you can be prepared to offer options, flexibility and involve both parties in the decision making process, you can establish a family environment that makes many of those tough times a win- win instead of a disaster.
There are just not many “how to” books on living to be 100. As far as I know there no books written on living to be 100 by someone who has achieved that many birthday celebrations! There are many books with data and research but few that tell you the “how” part of successful aging. So keep yourself renewed and mentally “sharp” by utilizing these recommended “Bits and Pieces”:
• Think differently. Get your attitude right! If you are blessed with parents who live a long life and you can share that with them, it will be a joy and you will be blessed..
• Embrace aging so you can learn to do it better for yourself.
• Relax. Old age is not a punishment. In the beginning when God planned all of this, be reminded that people lived to be 800-900 years old. Now we are talking serious eldercare issues!
• Laugh a lot and help your parents laugh a lot…it is the best medicine beside prayer.
• Be kind to yourself. Brain chatter is a killer if it is all negative.
What have you been doing to age successfully?
Family is on all of our minds as we plan for Thanksgiving and the holidays beyond. The love of a family and the opportunity to come together is one of life’s greatest blessings.
May you and your family be blessed on this day and throughout the year!
From our Office Staff and our Caregivers ….from our family to yours, Happy Thanksgiving!
From simple home visits to round-the-clock care, Family Staffing Solutions is the best choice for families in need of a helping hand. We specialize in providing personal care and in-home assistance with daily living activities for your older family loved ones.
For most people especially over the age of 60, it’s best to stay inside during excessive heat. Air conditioning is the best way to protect yourself against heat-related illness and death, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. If you are exerting yourself outside, it’s safer to do it before midday and stay hydrated and going more slowly. Experts say that over time, your body can adjust, “Humans have “an amazing ability to thermo-regulate during heat.” According to Southwestern Medical Center at Texas Presbyterian, “We defend our temperature… humans are actually well-adapted to deal with heat provided we can sweat, so our physiology is very cool.” People over age 60 are most vulnerable to weather conditions. Medical conditions such as diabetes, heart disease, respiratory conditions or weight issues hamper the body’s ability to regulate its core temperatures in extreme cold or heat.
When people go outside into summer weather heat over 90 degrees, the body can sense this assault to itself and will begin to fight to keep the body temperature cool. ” It has be proven over and over that heat waves do more than make us cross and sluggish. Searing temperatures kill more people in the U.S. than hurricanes, lightning, tornadoes, floods and earthquakes combined.So go and make some icy cold lemonade and relax. The summer is almost over.
At Family Staffing Solutions, Inc. we care about your health.
Parents are good about minimizing or concealing the struggles they may be encountering as they age. If you live far away from your parents, it’s often difficult to determine if they are truly doing well, despite what they may say.
This is why we suggest spending enough time on your next visit to evaluate several areas of daily living activities that might indicate what type of assistance they may or may not need.
If you have concerns with one or more of these items, it is time to call Family Staffing Solutions, Inc or another personal care assistance company in your area (we have offices in Murfreesboro, Nashville, and Shelbyville)
We, and other companies like ours, provide personal assistance care and specialize in the kinds of support you want for your parents. Since you cannot be with them all the time, we make sure someone is, should something unexpected happen. Remember: Making sure your parent(s) routine is running smoothly not only relieves their stress, but provides you with peace of mind.
When you can’t be there, we can! Contact the location nearest you.